Rough Guides and Root Magazine teamed up for the 2007 Essay Contest. Thank you to everyone who sent in an essay. It was difficult sorting through the many colorful stories to choose just 5 winners. We heard about emotional experiences among fellow dancers that reminded one writer of her ancestors, an altered essay about the joys of the late '80s night-life, traveling to Senegal and immersing oneself in Sabar, and jumping into a humbling new dance form with humor.
Announcing the winners:
Julien Camp
Rita Hargrave
Jalila Bell
Tonya Plank
Françoise Bouffault
Our first essay to be published comes just in time for Valentines Day. By Rita Hargrave of Oakland, California.
THREE
MINUTES LOVE AFFAIR
It
was 2 A.M. on January 14 and after three pots of Sleepy Time tea and
two Ambiens, I was still awake. After I climbed out of bed and
polished off a pint of mango ice cream, I decided to reorganize my
bedroom closet, a chore guaranteed to put me to sleep. When I opened
the door, I saw my favorite shoes, red four inch heels. The strappy
vamps reminded me of a forlorn Valentine’s Day last year at
Roccapulco, a San Francisco nightclub, when everybody but me had
a partner.
As a good salsa dancer, most nights I
can stroll into any San Francisco area club and be asked to dance by enough
guys that after 2 hours my feet have puffed out a full size larger.
But that evening I couldn’t pry any of the good dancers out of
their dates’ clutches even for one number. When I finally fell
asleep around three, I decided this year would be different. This
year I would bring my own partner to the holiday salsa bashes.
I
had three weeks. Richard, my companion for 25 years, would have been
ideal. He is a presentable bit of eye candy, owns his own tuxedo and
he lives right here in the house. But in the 12 years I’d been
going to salsa clubs four times a week he’d come with me-how many
times? Let’s see—never.
I
could have asked Maurice, my regular partner, but his wife wouldn’t
let him near the clubs during the festivities.
I
was sure that other women needed dance partners, so I decided to log
into www.salsapartners.com,
a dancers’ matchmaking website. I scanned the classified ad
categories—beginner, intermediate, advanced and conceited. Under
conceited Sean, a 26 year old Salvadorian mechanic (with a cobra
tattoo on his neck) wanted “ a trim, sensual partner who likes to
dance.” Under intermediates Chopra, 30-ish Pakistani dentist, a
sunbaked version of Pee Wee Herman, wanted ”an empathic woman with
rhythm and the right chemistry”. These guys were looking for more
than a holiday dance partner. They wanted hot young things, a mixture
of J.Lo, Janet Jackson and Mother Theresa. But I am not 26 with
24-inch waistline and buns of steel. I am 40-plus, a psychiatrist who
dances to shake off the emotional fallout of dozens of gloomy
patients. I subscribe to AARP, not Vibe magazine.
I
didn’t want just anybody. I wanted a partner who plunged me so deep
in the musical groove that at the end of the song, I had to hug him,
press my lips against his ear and murmur “Oh, my God. That was
great”. I wanted someone who could already dance Salsa, loved it
and looked great doing it. I needed a guy who wanted to dance, not
date.
When virtual Salsa dating didn’t
work, I decided to work the clubs. After two weeks of cruising my
usual haunts, my last stop was the Allegro Ballroom in Emeryville,
California. Every Sunday night Allegro, a tawny converted warehouse
in a mini-mall, draws a huge crowd, everybody from 16-year-old boys
to 70-year-old grandfathers who started dancing salsa before they
could talk.
At
9pm I stepped into the Main Room. Wailing trumpets,
clattering stiletto heels and the raucous chatter of 400 people
engulfing me . The D.J. played “Montuno Street”, the music
blasting so loudly that the walls rattled.
I
only had two hours to get the job done since I had to be at my desk
at seven the next morning. In front of the stage I saw flashy dancers
breaking out their fancy footwork, guys like —Ramon, a stocky
Peruvian wearing silver tipped cowboy boots, who dipped his partner
so low that her ponytail stirred up dust clouds on the floor.
I
was determined to find a good looking, single guy whom I already
loved to dance with. Two sweaty hours later, I had gotten nowhere.
I’d danced with lots of men, asked a couple of them out, and been
turned down. I reconciled myself to another dateless holiday season.
As I turned to leave, a skinny Filipino man grabbed my hand and
nodded toward the dance floor. It was Jerry, 5’6” with a nutmeg-
colored face and spiky black hair. He wore a loose white T-shirt and
droopy cargo pants. He’s been there all night, but he wasn’t
the type I had in mind. I knew from dancing with him before that
while Jerry was passionate and expressive on the dance floor, as soon
as the music stopped he clammed up. I’d never heard him squeeze
out more than a few painful sentences. Besides that he was 25: young
enough to be my son.
“Descarga Total”, a hard-rocking
Cuban song played as I eagerly followed Jerry onto the hardwood
floor. I hadn’t found a date, but at least I would have one great
dance before I went home. My legs were tense. I was nervous—he
was that good a dancer.
Jerry
took me in his arms, stroked my shoulder and I relaxed. We launched
into a wonderful dance, our bodies riding on the piano’s insistent
tumbao, and our feet chasing the breezy flute riffs. His eyes widened
with delight when I followed his lead and smoothly completed a series
of triple turns. I laughed when he mimicked Shakira’s shoulder
shimmies. It was a 3 minute love affair with a soundtrack of
throbbing conga rhythms. When the song ended, I closed my eyes,
sighed and gave him a hug filled with gratitude and love. The kind of
hug I reserve for Richard when he’d back from a three-week business
trip.
That’s
when I realized I had been making a mistake. This is what I should
have looking for all along, this emotional electricity that arcs
between simpatico dance partners. Why not Jerry? The passionate
connection I felt with him was exactly what I wanted. Who cares if
he didn’t talk much? But I did not ask him out. There was no
urgency anymore. I was not worried about finding a dance partner. I
would find a date easily, now that I had learned to look past the
style of a guy’s pants, his haircut or his age.
Rita is a contributor to Root and runs the Salsa Roots website. In addition to Salsa, she is also a talented Tango dancer.